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Tuesday, March 23, 2010
SHOULDS...."SHOULD I OR SHOULDN'T I?"
Dear Spiritual-Psychic friends, I am often asked the following question by my friends and clients..."Should
I do _________ (fill it in with ANYTHING), or should I _________?"
I
also hear students in my spiritual-psychic development class asking themselves the same question, trying to get guidance about
what they "should" do.
I rarely tell clients what they "should"
or "should not" do. The guides don't usually do this either. The word "should" implies judgement,
as if one way is definitely better than the other. The word "should" implies that things are either 'black"
or "white", "left" or "right", "this way" or "that way". It simply
isn't always so in life.
Most situations contain a number of different
possibilities, any and all of which might be "good" possibilities depending on what you are aiming for and what
you really want to experience in life. Sure, some possibilities are probably more inherently desirable than others,
but that doesn't necessarily mean these possibilities are what you "should" do, or even what you "can"
do.
Most choices have a little bit of "gray"
in them, and contain both plusses & minuses. It's just a matter of deciding what's most important to you, and
then making the choice that comes closest to aligning with that. And how you word your question usually
determines how easy it is is for you to get guidance & become clear on these matters.
For example, let's say you are asking yourself the question, "Should i seek
a job now, or should I wait until I am done with school?" You probably think that this is a "good" question
for getting clear guidance. Except it's actually a rotten question, in that it doesn't state
what you are trying to create (your main focus) or take into account the BIG picture.
Let's
say your "big picture" is that you are a stay-at-home Mom who also goes to school full time. You only
have 6 months of school left, but you're feeling pressure to contribute to the financial budget. You think that
getting a temporary job might help, but then again, it might also chew you up with daycare expenses. You're
also not feeling too "hot" about missing out on being at home with your kids. But you are concerned
about your financial future.
Looking at it this way, from
the "Big Picture" way, another way to ask your questions that would elicit more detailed information
& guidance is, "How will getting a job right now impact my & my family's financial future? What
are the benefits to getting a job now? What would the benefits be if I waited until I was done with school?"
This is just an example so you can see how it works. Really, you can apply this to ANY situation in which you are
getting guidance, especially those situation which are not as "black & white" as "should I do this"
or "should I do that".
Hope you found this helpful!
Blessings,
Cynthia
6:14 pm edt
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